Merweville, Karoo, Western Cape

Hoekom…Hoekom / Why…Why (A Prayer for Peace)

When doing the right thing still hurts, “Why…Why” becomes a safe prayer—bringing the fire in your chest to God, until you can breathe and come rest.

“WHY…WHY” was born in a moment I think most of us recognise: you genuinely try to do the right thing—and it still backfires. You help. You show up. You give time and energy you didn’t even have to spare. You carry responsibility that wasn’t yours to begin with. And then somehow the story turns. A tone changes. A narrative shifts. Your intentions get questioned. Your kindness gets treated like duty. You’re left feeling misunderstood, blamed, or taken for granted.

The hardest part isn’t only what happened. It’s what it does inside you.

For me, the “why” starts as a tightness in the chest. A restless loop in the mind. Replaying conversations. Building a case in my head. Thinking of what I should have said. Wondering how people can take what you offered freely and still make you feel like the problem. It’s anger mixed with embarrassment. It’s tiredness mixed with disbelief. And it’s the quiet fear that if I don’t defend myself, the wrong version of the story will win.

That’s when I realised I wasn’t only fighting what happened out there—I was fighting a storm in here. And it was stealing my rest.

This song belongs in the COME REST album because it’s not about getting even. It’s about getting free. It’s the moment I stop running the courtroom in my mind and take my questions to God without pretending I’m fine. Not a polished prayer—an honest one. The kind you breathe out when you don’t know what else to do.

“Why…Why” is where I lay down the need to control the outcome, the need to force clarity, the need to make people understand. It’s choosing to trust that God sees the full picture—more than I do—and that He can carry what I can’t.

Sometimes the miracle isn’t an instant answer. Sometimes the miracle is peace returning—so I can sleep, so I can breathe, so I can keep my heart soft. That’s the landing place of this song: I bring the “why” to God… and I come rest.

ISRC Number: QT6F72685326

Lyrics & story: Dirk Koen • Vocal: AI-assisted instrument • Production: Dirk Koen

Biblical anchor

Psalm 35 (inspired by the “bring your case to God” honesty); Philippians 4:6–7

Reflection

Psalm 35 is raw and honest: it shows that faith is allowed to speak from the place of being misunderstood and hurt. The power of the Psalm is not in revenge—it’s in relocation. It moves the burden of “setting things right” from your hands to God’s hands. That shift is where rest begins. To keep the posture gentle and peace-focused, Philippians 4:6–7 becomes the companion anchor: bring it to God in prayer, and His peace guards the heart and mind. That’s exactly what this song is trying to do—turn a spiralling “why” into a surrender prayer.

This is not a fight song. It’s a refuge song. A reminder that you don’t need to carry the whole story alone. You can bring the questions, lay them down, and let peace return.

Lyrics

INTRO

Hoekom… hoekom, Here…
ek bring dit na U toe.

VERSE 1- Afrikaans

Ek het reg probeer doen, ek het gehelp, ek het gedra,
en toe skuif die storie stilweg—nou’s ek weer die een wat vra.
’n Stem raak koud, ’n woord raak skeef, my naam raak swaar om te hou,
en in my bors brand daai ou vraag wat my by nag nog roep so nou:
Here… hoekom?

CHORUS 1 – Afrikaans

Hoekom… hoekom… ek sien dit nie nou,
maar U ken my hart—U ken my binneste rou.
Ek gee dit oor… ek laat dit gaan,
U hou my vas… en ek kom rus.

VERSE 2 – Afrikaans

Dis nie altyd groot en hard nie—dis klein goed wat jou moeg maak,
’n kyk, ’n wenk, ’n halwe waarheid wat jou vrede stadig raak.
Hulle vat jou goedheid as vanself, jou stilte as jy’s verkeerd,
en jy wens jy kon net rus—sonder dat jy alles moet verklaar en leer.

CHORUS 2 – Afrikaans

Hoekom… hoekom… ek sien dit nie nou,
maar U ken my hart—U ken my binneste rou.
Ek gee dit oor… ek laat dit gaan,
U hou my vas… en ek kom rus.

VERSE 3 – English

I tried to do the right thing, still it turned the other way,
and I’ve been carrying questions that follow me through the day.
It isn’t only what happened, it’s what it wakes in me—
the restless replay, the tight chest, the need to make them see.

BRIDGE – English

So hold my heart, Lord, when my thoughts won’t settle down.
Teach me how to lay it down, and not to wear the crown.
Your peace can guard me… and I can rest.

FINAL CHORUS – English (bigger lift, grounded)

Why… why… I don’t see it now,
but You know my heart, Lord—you won’t let me drown.
I give it up… I lay it down,
You hold me close… and I can rest.

OUTRO – English

Why… why…
I lay it down… and I can rest.

Why… why…
I lay it down… and I can rest